Author: This is Real Mama

Hello and welcome to my blog! My name is Nikisha and I am a Mama of three – two boys and a girl. And no, I’m not having any more kids! I was born and bred in the Caribbean island of Trinidad but I currently live in the UK where I work as an actuary and write in my downtime. Having children has been such a crazy adventure full of great and downright shitty times – too much to not share. I enjoy storytelling in it’s realest and most raw form and I do swear…a lot! My aim is to make my motherhood journey as relatable and unsensored as possible so I can show other moms they are not alone in the madness of this journey. Enjoy! Ps – Look out for my first children’s book I am hoping to publish soon!

Family, Lifestyle, Personal

My Boys Will NOT Be THOSE Boys!

February 9, 2021February 9, 2021 This is Real Mama

Rape Culture is an environment in which rape is prevalent and in which sexual violence against women is normalised and excused in the media and popular culture. I grew up in the Caribbean. When most people around the world think of the what comes to their mind is beauty, vibrancy, delicious cuisine, sun, sea, infectious music and a chilled out vibe. While these things are true of the Caribbean and while I am forever proud to be a Caribbean woman, there is a dark and incredibly ugly side which we try our best to hide, but which needs to be it up in great big spot lights for the world to see in all its disgraceful glory!! I am from Trinidad, so I speak specifically with reference to Trinidad BUT it is not unique to this island, by any means.

Divorce, Personal

Life after divorce

August 20, 2020August 20, 2020 This is Real Mama

LIFE AFTER DIVORCE I won't lie to you, divorce is hard as hell! However, the good news is, it is not the end of the world. It can be if you let it, let's be real here. You are in control of how you allow it to affect you. You can move on with your… Continue reading Life after divorce

Motherhood

So you think you are a bad mom?

May 27, 2019August 20, 2020 This is Real Mama

When Yanice was 3 years old he spent 5 days in hospital. He hated every minute so as a treat and to cheer him up I took him into the capital city of Trinidad to experience the splendor of our carnival. I made him a makeshift costume and carried him on my shoulders for hours… Continue reading So you think you are a bad mom?

Personal

My World Gone Mad

March 5, 2019 This is Real Mama

Today, the day before Ash Wednesday, in my beautiful, unique, cultural island of Trinidad and Tobago, is Carnival Tuesday. A celebration, not to be confused with any of the half-baked imitations, is a celebration of our freedom – freedom of the flesh, of the mind, body and soul. A celebration of our art forms, a… Continue reading My World Gone Mad

Motherhood

Switch Off

March 4, 2019March 4, 2019 This is Real Mama

I am often told that I make motherhood look so easy. It's not. I don't know what about my posts and pictures make it look easy but nothing about being a Mom is a walk in the park! Fulfilling - yes. Beautiful - yes. Worth it - yes. Easy - Hell to the fucking No!… Continue reading Switch Off

Family, Personal

This is Me

February 21, 2019February 22, 2019 This is Real Mama

Have you ever been for an interview and they ask "So tell me about yourself"? It's meant to be one of the toughest interview questions because what on earth are you supposed to say, right?! It was not until I started conducting interviews myself that I discovered they want you to say what it is… Continue reading This is Me

Uncategorized

Fuck the school run

January 28, 2019January 27, 2019 This is Real Mama

Today I have taken over doing the school run for the first time since Yelena was born. Bah Humbug! Am I the only one who absolutely hates the school run? It starts off with trying to get the kids ready on time without sky rocketing your blood pressure and threatening to sell them on eBay.… Continue reading Fuck the school run

Family

10 Year Challenge

January 27, 2019February 25, 2019 This is Real Mama

With all this hype on social media about showing photos of yourself 10 years apart, it got me feeling nostalgic. My life has changed dramatically in the past 10 years. November 2018 would have made it 10 years since I packed all my and my 2 year old son's shit into two suitcases and left… Continue reading 10 Year Challenge

Motherhood, Pregnancy

C-Section Reality

January 11, 2019August 20, 2020 This is Real Mama

I started writing this blog a few weeks ago but was waiting for my tummy to go down a bit so I can get a decent photo of my scar. But I need to face reality now, it's not happening so easily the third time round. I keep seeing these perfectly photogenic, neat, almost invisible… Continue reading C-Section Reality

Motherhood

PPD Awareness

January 5, 2019 This is Real Mama

So, unbelievably, people are actually questioning whether post-partum depression is a thing and we, the enlightened folk are having to defend its existence. Really? Something isn't right in the world when intelligence always has to argue with stupid. If you have never had a baby and you want to judge, please take several, uncomfortable seats… Continue reading PPD Awareness